Family and Marriage

Family and Marriage

I am not an expert and I am by no means having any right to give any advices. I am not like others out there who preach what they can’t practice and even if I can practice what I preach, I still feel I have no right to give any advice to anyone at all because I believe that we all have our own time to serve in this lifetime. If it’s not yet your time, then it is not yet your time. I don’t give an unsolicited advice, that’s just not me. I don’t have thick face at all. I am not like others out there.

Anyway, there’s this issue amongst my circle of friends, marriage and creating a family of their own. Here’s my take on that issue. I am not against it. It is just that, before you enter into such thing, make sure it is for the right reasons because after all, it is your life. I have known so many people, and maybe this is a cultural thing, I don’t know. They usually came from a messed up family and given their situation, I think most people think that creating a family is the escape or solution to go on. I think it is not. You see, creating a child out of your desperation to fix your own childhood is not only selfishness but suicide. Suicide of your dreams, of your child’s future and dreams as well. Fix yourself first, before trying to fix others because until then, you have no right to do so. Marriage is not the solution. It IS NOT. I don’t know there are so many people out there who easily gave up their freedom for the sake of some cultural dogmas. I mean, do you really have no idea what kind of life you would have once you commit into someone whom you are not in love with? I mean, come on. Imagine, living your life under the same roof with a man you don’t even get along with? Why exactly would you do that to yourself? Why would you throw yourself into such hell hole? That’s fucking stupid, man. Life is difficult and hard as it is and if you even make it worse by committing yourself into a situation, you are not ready for, that is suicide. No wonder so many people are walking talking dead sticks.

Relationship is not joke; more so, a marriage. What more creating a family. To build a family is to build a team with two people having to cooperate with one another. And if you and your spouse are not passionate about it, imagine what kind of life you will give to your children? Don’t be selfish. I don’t see myself having to commit myself into marriage. Not that I don’t believe in it. But I guess, I am better off alone with myself. My parents aren’t the role models I want to be in my life. They’ve disappoint me and I don’t want any more responsibility for myself that I have to care about.